Let’s talk about your hardest workout this week? Why do you think it was hard? What makes a workout hard? What was happening that made it so hard?
What do you think were the worst parts of that workout? Why was it the worst? What makes something terrible or hard or the worst?
As you clean out your mind every day with these mental core workouts that I offer, you will want to become very good at asking yourself questions that will get those areas of the brain that haven’t been checked in a long while.
You want to be aware of the things that are cluttering your mental space and why you put them there. Are they useful, are they helping you become the best athlete you can be? Do you feel empowered and energized and motivated by those thoughts?
As you question why you put them there in the first place, you can challenge your reasoning and decide if you want to put them back in that space or toss them in the trash bin. Did you know you had that option?
But, without knowing what is in your mind and why you CHOSE to put it there, there will be no change.
Those repeated habitual, non-useful thoughts will continue to show up in your results– in practice and at competition. Do you want to have results that are hard and terrible? If not, then let’s take them out of the subconscious and consider what we want to do with them, then tweak them and put them back by practicing new thoughts over and over.
This is like doing a new ab routine. You coach just found the best new version of a highly successful teams ab workout and decided that it going to be the key to all of your success. You try the new routine and decide immediately that it’s the worst idea that your coach has come up with so far. It’s hard, its painful and you can’t imagine that you will ever be able to get through the whole routine without stopping for a few breathers in between sets. But, then you remember that you “have to do it because you don’t want to look weak!”
I remember working out in college as a freshman. I wanted to prove myself to the seniors on our team. We were in the weight room all on our backs, ready for some ab workout. The seniors forewarned all us little freshman that this ab workout would be tough but we couldn’t quit, no matter what. We had to stay up– meaning keep our shoulders off the ground.
Weight Coach, FRED, was intimidating– it took me until my sophmore year to realize when he was acting “tough”, he just really wanted us to get stronger and he was actually a super nice guy.
At any rate, during this first ab workout as a new freshman at college, I wasn’t sure what to expect of Fred. I felt myself beginning to “hope I could handle this new ab routine.” I was having many sentences that were not useful running through my head. However, I knew I wasn’t going to quit.
Guess what happened? I remember my whole body shaking with fatigue and exhaustion. I was determined not to let the seniors see me be weak in any way. I want to believe I stayed up the whole time. In my head that is what happend. I don’t remember the full experience except for hoping I could hold out. Some of my thoughts were, “Stanford just paid a lot of money for me to be on this team. There was only success. No quitting. That might disappoint them. I can’t let them down.” Those thoughts were clearly becoming a standard mental re-run from day one.
In the 4 years of being at that university, we won Pac-10’’s (which is now Pac 12’s) and made it to nationals– a first for the Stanford women’s gymnastics team. I had an amazing experience, which included many trials. There were new head coaches every year who were also trying to prove themselves to the university admissions. I had some set backs with unexpected injuries. I put on weight. There were emotions that were new and unmanaged.
Have you ever felt that. Wanting to show you had it in you to be everything everyone expected you to be? But, instead of feeling confident that you were living up to the expectation, you had doubts and just “hoped” you were enough for everyone’s expectations. Most of us do at times. Instead of “hoping” you will keep up in the new ab workout, or hoping the team will be proud of your performance, or trying to be the gymnast your coach recruited for the team…. I want you to learn the tools to have no doubt that you ARE exactly who you are supposed to be for the team, for the coach, for the future college you will be performing for, and especially and most importantly for you.
The mental core exercises I am giving you guys will help you shift those doubtful kinds of thoughts to help create confidence and energy instead of tension and high expectations. Your brain will feel like quitting and giving up. That is a guarantee. Just like I had to keep reminding myself everyday as a freshman at Stanford that quitting was not an option, you will have to do the same if you want new results. You will realize you’ve gotten stronger, that you hesitate less and less, that you run harder and flip faster and react quicker than you ever have before.
So, todays tool: As you ask yourself questions, challenge the answers to those questions, and only put back the thoughts that will serve you as an athlete, then you will begin to feel a shift that will result in a more confident you and a more confident performance.
You know you’ve got more in you. These tools will get it out of you!
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Have a Flippin’ Awesome Day,
Sports Performance & Weight Loss Coach