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Don’t Rely On Your Coach

Don’t RELY ON Your Coach




Most gymnasts love to have a coach stand there just in case…

Just in case what?  You miss the bar, your off centered on a beam skill, or maybe landing short on a tumbling pass.


If you are a gymnast who likes to ask for spots on every skill, maybe you want to think about what the word “trust” means in regards to self-confidence. Trust is a “firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.”


So, if you trust someone else, then you are relying on their ability and strength. But, what if that person doesn’t show up for you in the way that you wanted? Do you continue to trust them? Do you give them another chance to spot  you on a difficult skill? What is it worth to you to trust a coach?


For gymnasts, trust is very important! You are attempting to complete skills that are dangerous and require extreme focus. When you ask a coach for a spot, or when a coach says you are ready to complete a skill and they will spot you, what do you think?


If you believe that you will be completing a skill based on the coaches ability to spot, then I would ask you to think again!


Every coach has the best intention for their gymnasts. However, mistakes happen. Sometimes rhythm is off, or a leotard is slippery from sweat, or a gymnast doesn’t do the skill the same as they did the drills leading up to the skill.


Consider what you are requiring of the coach. You are saying, “Just in case I don’t show up for myself, I want you to show up for me.” This is what the coach expects and plans for when they are asked to spot you.


But, what if you decided to trust yourself and show up for yourself? What if you prepare yourself physically and mentally so that when a coach says they believe you are ready, then you can strongly agree. And then, when they ask if you would like a spot, you can also agree or not agree to a spot, knowing that the only person you are going to fully trust is yourself.


If you rely on your coach and he/she doesn’t spot well, then you will want to blame your coach for their lack of ability. If you rely on yourself, then you will ask yourself what you need to do the next time to complete the skill better– you will own the skill instead of giving the skill away to the coach to complete and dictate what you need to do.


To truly own a skill, you must learn to rely solely on yourself. Once you do this, and you have your own back, then you will trust that whether the coach spots you or not, you are prepared and ready to do the skill, as if you were doing it alone.

Self-confidence includes the ability to trust yourself. Try that when you are about to attempt a new skill. This doesn’t mean you can’t ask for a spot. But, you should always be prepared as if you were doing the spot, so you are relying on your own abilities and not “hoping” the coach “spots well”.


Take your progress to the next level by having your own back and thanking the coach when they do need to be a Plan B or back-up, as they spot you.


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Have a Flippin’ Awesome Day,

Amy Twiggs

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